relationships
5 reasons to stop being a perfectionist for the sake of your relationship
Is perfectionism destroying your relationship? 5 reasons to stop being a perfectionist for the sake of your relationship Is this you? I just want everything to be sorted so that I can relax/ enjoy life I wish my partner could do things the “right” way I feel uncomfortable / stressed if things are not all…
Read MoreHow can I learn to let love in?
Love takes a great deal of courage. When I was a very young adult, I thought all I wanted was love and I searched for it in nightclubs. Inside I felt unsure of myself {to put it mildly}. I felt unattractive / unloveable. One night in a nightclub, I found someone who was really into…
Read MoreHow can I improve my relationship without changing my partner?
Is it possible to improve your relationship without changing your partner? Absolutely. Let’s face it, unless you are changing relationships as often as you change underwear, there are going to be moments when everything in your relationships feels stuck. Stuck because of him. (For ease, I am speaking as though to a heterosexual woman, but…
Read MoreHow to be more intimate
How do you become more intimate? Does it require you to ; -be in a relationship -have erotic sex every night -be upbeat and happy all the time -be wild, brazen and out there -intensely look into other people’s eyes No. All those things are possible, but it is not the place to start.…
Read MoreWhy am I so mean to the one I love?
You thought you were the only one who was mean to their beloved. I’m afraid not. you are in good company. The ones we love the most, cop it the most. I mean, it makes a lot of sense on so may levels. But sometimes we get stuck there in bitch mode, festering away without…
Read MoreAll I need is just a little patience
My old dog shows me on a daily basis why we need patience. When I am walking him to the front door for his morning walk, he gets ahead of me and puts his nose right up to where the door is about to open. He is so keen to go outside, that I can’t…
Read MoreIs he or isn’t he my soul mate?
Don’t let a belief in Soulmates lead you to negativity A client recently asked me if I believed in soul mates. “Yes! I do.” I replied. But not in the same way I used to. When I first got together with my husband, I believed whole heartedly that I had found my soul mate. My…
Read MoreTrue self-nurture and how we get it wrong
What is the secret to true self-nurture? Recently I noticed myself feeling anxious. Anxiety for me is a wake-up call. It says to me that I am not connected to or standing in solidarity with my spirit. But why? I found myself asking. I show up every day, I put my hands on my heart,…
Read MoreKinesiology door closing to give more space to relationship coaching practice
I am closing the doors of my kinesiology clinic at the end of next week to give more time and energy to my relationship coaching practice (more on that below). It has been 7 years since I first set up my practice. What a ride it has been. In those 7 years, I have seen…
Read MoreFiercely standing up for ME
Sometimes in life and love there are moments when we find ourselves in situations that are really not okay and we are asked to really stand up and fiercely protect ourselves. Whether it be at work, with friends, strangers or in our love relationships, we have all been there. From little things that feel heavy…
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