About Nicole

I'm Nicole Mathieson relationship coach, counsellor, couple therapist and author of The Beauty Load

I help women, men and couples in their intimate relationships with others and with themselves.

Are you ready to create the loving intimate relationship (inner and outer) that you have always wanted?

Yes? Then you are in the right place!

Couple therapist

We struggle in our relationships wondering...

  • when the happily ever after will start
  • why we feel so resentful and triggered towards the one we love
  • how we can be such control freaks (we are not like that with anyone else)
  • if this person really is the "one" or not
  • why we are uninspired by our sex lives
  • if this is as good as relationships get
  • why we can't communicate better
  • if you are good enough, attractive enough, loving enough or sexual enough to have a thriving relationship at all

I know, I have been there myself

I have been married for 20+ years and like any marriage, we have had our ups and downs. We are lucky to have been on an upward trend for many years, but it is not by chance. It is only since I started getting smarter and taking responsibility for my part in the relationship that things have felt better.

I know from experience that relationships are hard. And this is the case even if you, like me, are with a good man/human.

It can be really easy to blame, get resentful or just throw it all away, when a lot of the time, what we need to do is take responsibility and do what we can to make it better.
(NB: not always – sometimes we are just with the wrong person)

In my coaching sessions, I bring my years of experience as a relationship coach, counsellor & kinesiologist as well as the wisdom gained from nearly 3 decades with my man to help you work towards having a relationship that not only feels good now, but thrives and grows into the future. The secret lies with you getting smarter and becoming more Self led in your relationship.

I know that embarking on this is a big and often scary step. I want you to know that I offer a gentle, supportive and accepting environment in which my focus is on making sure you feel safe and comfortable in order to blossom.

Let me help you bring back the Self. The you that you know you can be and bring the spark back in to your relationship.

Work with me in Paddington (Brisbane), or online.

More about Nicole

Nicole is an IFS informed therapist which means that she helps you become Self led in your relationships with yourself, your partner and the world.
When you are Self led, you become less reliant on those around you to look after you as you can comfort the upset parts inside. This is a skill that Nicole gently guides you towards developing both in individual and couple sessions.


  • Diploma of Counselling with advanced study majors in Relationship counselling, Family dynamics and Child development
  • ACA accredited
  • Gottman Method Relationship therapy Levels 1 and 2
  • Diploma of Kinesiology
  • Published author - The Beauty Load

With extra study in:

  • Dealing with Infidelity - Ellen Bader
  • IFS informed practitioner studies - Simon D'Orsogna
  • IFS for couples (Internal Family Systems) - Toni Herbine-Blank
  • Healing attachment wounds - Diane PooleHeller
  • The Gottman Method to treating Affairs and Trauma
  • Mindfulness-centred couple therapy - Rob Fisher
  • Emotionally Focussed Therapy - Sue Johnson
  • Compassionate Inquiry in Action - Gabor Mate

The Beauty Load, How to feel enough in a world obsessed with Beauty. 

Out now

Why am I a bitch to the one I love?

It seems to resonate with so many women. 

My podcast

Relationship-smart women - helping women get smarter so their relationships thrive.

Free tools and resources
to get started

Online courses to support change in love and life

One-on-one acceptance and gentle guidance

My support crew

Jasmine Matthews – Web developer
Thank God for Jasmine. She is an angel. She has handled every aspect of putting this website together with professionality and grace.

Broderick Photography – Photos
Juanita is amazing. Her photos are out of this world. Filled with whimsy and enchantment. I love what she captured for me for this site.

Mum & Dad
Support and love all the time.

Iain & my 2 beautiful kids
My teachers, my companions, my entertainment & my constant reminders that I am human and that life is a blessing and I am here to savour every little moment.

And you lovely one
You are my inspiration. Couldn’t do it without you.