Relationships blog
Is your husband making you feel like shit?
A lot of the women I work with blame their husbands for the way they feel. ‘He makes me feel like shit’, they tell me. ‘He doesn’t surprise me anymore’. ‘I feel like we’re little more than housemates’. ‘He doesn’t put in any effort’. ‘He doesn’t look at me the way he used to’. I…
5 reasons to stop being a perfectionist for the sake of your relationship
Is perfectionism destroying your relationship? 5 reasons to stop being a perfectionist for the sake of your relationship Is this you? I just want everything to be sorted so that I can relax/ enjoy life I wish my partner could do things the “right” way I feel uncomfortable / stressed if things are not…
How can I trust my partner more?
How can I trust my partner more? Trust can be one of the most difficult aspects of intimate relationships. For some of us the struggle is an inner one. The very act of being intimate with someone makes us feel hugely vulnerable and jittery, affecting how we can trust. For others, we may have…
5 things that don’t need to end your relationship
“Is it a deal breaker?” 5 relationship deal-breakers….. or perhaps not! A fresh perspective on 5 things we traditionally think lead to relationship breakdown At some time in our lives, just about all of us have asked ourselves the question immortalised by The Clash, “Should I stay, or should I go?” In this post…
How can I improve my relationship without changing my partner?
Is it possible to improve your relationship without changing your partner? Absolutely. Let’s face it, unless you are changing relationships as often as you change underwear, there are going to be moments when everything in your relationships feels stuck. Stuck because of him. (For ease, I am speaking as though to a heterosexual woman, but…
How to be more intimate
How do you become more intimate? Does it require you to ; -be in a relationship -have erotic sex every night -be upbeat and happy all the time -be wild, brazen and out there -intensely look into other people’s eyes No. All those things are possible, but it is not the place to start.…
Why am I so mean to the one I love?
You thought you were the only one who was mean to their beloved. I’m afraid not. you are in good company. The ones we love the most, cop it the most. I mean, it makes a lot of sense on so may levels. But sometimes we get stuck there in bitch mode, festering away without…
Why do I feel so angry at my husband?
I’m angry because we feel disconnected On Saturday while attending a conference in Sydney, I felt inspired to pen these words on how angry it makes us when we feel disconnected and then post them to my FB group, the Unbreakable Love Community: “You can’t attack your partner into connection. It came to me that…
Our culture lets us down
Our culture encourages marriage, but where do we turn if we have problems? In my marriage, there have been moments when I have felt so alone. ……..So sure that nobody else shared my problems. I didn’t know who to turn to. I didn’t know that turning to someone would really be an option. And then…
Hi, I'm Nicole Mathieson, a relationship and body image coach, couple therapist and author.
This blog is designed to help teach couples practical ways to cultivate a deeper understanding of one another, find safety and connection in relationships, navigate difficult conversations and repair after conflict.