Understand your attachment style – understand your relationship

Understand your attachment styles Why do our most intimate relationships often make us feel the most insecure? Why does he pull away at the times when you are in most desperate need of comfort and reassurance? Why do we respond so emotionally to seemingly little things our partners do? Or, inversely, why do the things…

Why do we stop feeling love for our partners after kids?

Why do we stop feeling love for our partners after we have kids? After the elation of having our gorgeous wee babies and working out how on earth to look after them, we can start to feel the build-up of resentment, crankiness and a lack of desire. But why? Is it because (for many of…

Keeping love alive after baby

So, you have a beautiful new baby. Congratulations! This is such a special time for you and your partner. As a wife, mum of 2 and a relationship coach, I often have women calling out to me for help in these early days of motherhood. The baby has changed their relationship dynamics and with the…

Is he turning into his father?

So much tension is created in relationships over the in-laws. I often get asked to help women with ways of handling tricky mother’s in law or snoopy father’s in law. Family complications like this are not what we signed up for when we chose to spend our lives with our partners. But what can be…

Why can’t he just do things the right way?

I should have felt annoyed. It was Saturday evening.  I arrived home after holding my Sensual Soul Workshop and I was feeling great; light, soft, present and open……. in essence sensual. I had spent the day with a group of women letting go of our need to be perfect and welcoming our more natural, honest…

Is your husband making you feel like shit?

A lot of the women I work with blame their husbands for the way they feel. ‘He makes me feel like shit’, they tell me. ‘He doesn’t surprise me anymore’. ‘I feel like we’re little more than housemates’. ‘He doesn’t put in any effort’. ‘He doesn’t look at me the way he used to’. I…

5 reasons to stop being a perfectionist for the sake of your relationship

Is perfectionism destroying your relationship? 5 reasons to stop being a perfectionist for the sake of your relationship Is this you? I just want everything to be sorted so that I can relax/ enjoy life I wish my partner could do things the “right” way I feel uncomfortable / stressed if things are not all…

How can I trust my partner more?

  How can I trust my partner more? Trust can be one of the most difficult aspects of  intimate relationships. For some of us the struggle is an inner one. The very act of being intimate with someone makes us feel hugely vulnerable and jittery, affecting how we can trust. For others, we may have…

Why do I feel so numb in my lady parts?

Are you wondering why you feel numb, disconnected, or shameful about your vagina? It is not all that hard to figure out really as vaginas have been shamed and felt ashamed of for millenia. For many of us, the mere mention of the word vagina, makes us feel awkward. In fact, I remember a time…

How can I learn to let love in?

Love takes a great deal of courage. When I was a very young adult, I thought all I wanted was love and I searched for it in nightclubs. Inside I felt unsure of myself {to put it mildly}. I felt unattractive / unloveable. One night in a nightclub, I found someone who was really into…

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