Relationships blog
How can I trust my partner more?
How can I trust my partner more? Trust can be one of the most difficult aspects of intimate relationships. For some of us the struggle is an inner one. The very act of being intimate with someone makes us feel hugely vulnerable and jittery, affecting how we can trust. For others, we may have…
5 things that don’t need to end your relationship
“Is it a deal breaker?” 5 relationship deal-breakers….. or perhaps not! A fresh perspective on 5 things we traditionally think lead to relationship breakdown At some time in our lives, just about all of us have asked ourselves the question immortalised by The Clash, “Should I stay, or should I go?” In this post I…
How can I improve my relationship without changing my partner?
Is it possible to improve your relationship without changing your partner? Absolutely. Let’s face it, unless you are changing relationships as often as you change underwear, there are going to be moments when everything in your relationships feels stuck. Stuck because of him. (For ease, I am speaking as though to a heterosexual woman, but…
How to be more intimate
How do you become more intimate? Does it require you to ; -be in a relationship -have erotic sex every night -be upbeat and happy all the time -be wild, brazen and out there -intensely look into other people’s eyes No. All those things are possible, but it is not the place to start. To…
Why am I so mean to the one I love?
You thought you were the only one who was mean to their beloved. I’m afraid not. you are in good company. The ones we love the most, cop it the most. I mean, it makes a lot of sense on so may levels. But sometimes we get stuck there in bitch mode, festering away without…
Why do I feel so angry at my husband?
Why do I feel angry when we are disconnected? You can’t attack your partner into connection. It came to me that this is what we do sometimes, when we crave connection. We want to be close, intimate and deep. Not feeling close can make us angry. We feel so angry, that our attempts to get…
Our culture lets us down
Our culture encourages marriage, but where do we turn if we have problems? In my marriage, there have been moments when I have felt so alone. ……..So sure that nobody else shared my problems. I didn’t know who to turn to. I didn’t know that turning to someone would really be an option. And then…
Change shame
I have been feeling change shame. In the last week, I have released my new branding and direction to the world. I have changed a lot in the past few years. As a kinesiologist and life coach. And even before that as a teacher and mosaic artist. Part of me feels the tingles and…
Notes from my journal on France, family and travels
France, family and travels. Some notes from my journal. Random insights 1. Wonder-full France is full to the brim of wonders – around every corner, on every hill, in each and every patisserie. It is a country that is rich with culture, treats and such mouth watering goodness. So far we have seen 4 World Heritage…
Do you feel like damaged goods?
Do you feel like damaged goods because you have a painful history? I have so many clients who think of themselves as ruined or damaged. They can’t imagine that this darkness could be anything other than shameful, something to hide, or to have to admit only when you know someone well enough not to scare…
Hi, I'm Nicole Mathieson, a relationship and body image coach, couple therapist and author.
This blog is designed to help teach couples practical ways to cultivate a deeper understanding of one another, find safety and connection in relationships, navigate difficult conversations and repair after conflict.
