Relationships blog
Why we want to control our relationship and why it doesn’t work
Why We Try to Control the People We Love (And Why It Never Really Works) Looking Honestly at Control in Relationships I want to talk about control in relationships. When we hear the word “control,” we often think about someone else controlling us. But today I want to gently turn the lens inward and invite…
How Defensiveness Damages Intimacy (And What To Do Instead)
How Defensiveness Damages Intimacy (And What To Do Instead) (Intent vs Impact in Relationships) Before I begin, I want to acknowledge the Traditional Owners of the land where I record and work — the Yugara people and Turrbal people of Meanjin (Brisbane). I pay my respects to Elders past and present. I hold the intention…
Same event, different story
Same Event, Different Story — Understanding Your Partner and Strengthening Your Relationship We see things so differently, even though we’ve often experienced the same thing. One of the wildest — and most fascinating — parts of my work as a couples therapist is this:Two people can go through the same event and walk away with…
7 of The Best Body Confidence Books Every Woman Should Read
Every single day, we are bombarded with hundreds—if not thousands—of messages telling us that we are not enough. Not thin enough, not toned enough, not smooth-skinned enough, not young enough. It’s endless. That drip-feed of inadequacy isn’t accidental. Our culture thrives on our insecurities because when we feel “less than,” we buy more. We diet…
I Hate My Body: How to Stop Being So Mean to Yourself
All the messaging around our bodies creates an internal self-criticism. What we need is instead is to nourish self-compassion.
Revive your sex life – get off the orgasm train
If you want to revive your sex life….forget about orgasm & get off the orgasm train. I had a revelation recently, it was that the western culture of sexuality really didn’t suit me. In fact, I am pretty sure it doesn’t suit a lot of us. What I am talking about is our sexual narrative…
How do I calm down in an argument?
How to Calm Down in an Argument and Avoid Regrets Do you find it hard to calm down in an argument? Do you ever regret what you say or do in the heat of the moment? Getting angry and having disagreements with our partners are normal and natural parts of intimacy. Problems arise, however, when…
Why do I get so angry at my husband?
Why do I get so angry at my husband? What is the deeper reason that I get so triggered and angry with my partner? Sometimes our partners can make us feel so angry. We get filled with resentment, annoyance, irritation and hateful thoughts. We wonder what is wrong with us, them….. our relationship. N.B.…
Why am I such a bitch to my husband?
You thought you were the only one who was a bitch to their husband? Sadly, or perhaps reassuringly, that is not the case. You are in good company. Being a bitch to the ones we love is common amongst us women. Read on or listen to the post below. It is strange isn’t it, that…
How to Feel Beautiful: 7 Tips to Feel Better in Your Body and More Beautiful
Do you find it hard to feel confident and comfortable in your body? You’re certainly not alone. In a world inundated with harmful beauty standards, it’s challenging to foster a genuine love for ourselves. And, if you’ve landed here, you’re likely wondering how to feel beautiful in a world that places so much emphasis on…
Hi, I'm Nicole Mathieson, a relationship and body image coach, couple therapist and author.
This blog is designed to help teach couples practical ways to cultivate a deeper understanding of one another, find safety and connection in relationships, navigate difficult conversations and repair after conflict.
