50 questions to ask your partner to deepen connection
Rekindle Your Connection with 50 Couple Questions to deepen your connection
Life as a couple often involves a great deal of logistical planning, housework, childcare, and a multitude of other responsibilities. It’s easy to get so caught up in these everyday tasks that we forget to make time for the more enjoyable aspects of our relationship. Finding a balance between the serious aspects of partnership and the need for lighter, more playful conversations is essential.
Rediscover the Magic
These 50 Couple Questions can help you rekindle your connection and rediscover the magic that brought you together in the first place, before the logistics and serious stuff took over. Get the Couple Questions here.
The Business of Living Together
So much of living together can feel business-like. We spend a lot of time discussing logistics, housework, and looking after the kids. In all this busyness, we can forget to make time for anything else. Our brains, wired for safety, constantly point out what’s not working, directing our criticisms at our partner. This makes our relationship feel like a series of right or wrongs, corrections, and criticisms. Is it any wonder we sometimes feel lackluster about our connection?
The Power of Reconnective Conversations
As a couples therapist and relationship-focused counselor, I see this every day. Couples wonder if they still have it, if they still love each other, if they find their partner attractive. Often, with a little guidance back to connection, many couples remember all the things they love about their partner, the things that feel great, and what drew them together in the first place.
Building Support with Scaffolding
Having the hard conversations is really important, but so are the light, reconnective conversations. I call it scaffolding. When you build a structure from the ground up, you first put up scaffolding to support the difficult work of building. Relationships need this too. It can be easier at times to approach the hardest conversations, when the connection we’ve built through lighter, playful interactions supports us.
Deepen Your Connection
50 questions to ask your partner to deepen your connection will remind you of the connection between your true selves. Balancing the serious and the playful in your relationship is crucial for maintaining a strong, lasting connection. While addressing important issues is essential, don’t underestimate the power of light-hearted conversations. These moments of playfulness and reconnection can be the foundation upon which you build a loving and resilient partnership. So, step back from the seriousness of life, rediscover the joy in each other, and remember why you fell in love in the first place. 50 Couple Questions.
If you’re interested in diving deeper into creating great couple communication habits, check out my online course, “Safe and Connected Communication”.
Nicole Mathieson
This article was written by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a couple of podcasts and is the author of The Beauty Load, How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.
Nicole helps men, women and couples get smarter, happier and more connected in their intimate relationships.

