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How Defensiveness Damages Intimacy (And What To Do Instead)
How Defensiveness Damages Intimacy (And What To Do Instead) (Intent vs Impact in Relationships) Before I begin, I want to acknowledge the Traditional Owners of the land where I record and work — the Yugara people and Turrbal people of Meanjin (Brisbane). I pay my respects to Elders past and present. I hold the intention…
Read MoreRevive your sex life – get off the orgasm train
If you want to revive your sex life….forget about orgasm & get off the orgasm train. I had a revelation recently, it was that the western culture of sexuality really didn’t suit me. In fact, I am pretty sure it doesn’t suit a lot of us. What I am talking about is our sexual narrative…
Read More5 fun ways to reconnect with your partner
Here are 5 fun ways to reconnect with your partner. Life can get hectic, and amidst the chaos of work, kids, and daily routines, it’s easy to forget to nurture your relationship. Many of us fall into the trap of assuming that love should be effortless, but the truth is, every relationship needs some TLC…
Read MoreWhen to come to couple therapy
When should you come to couple therapy? People seem to have the wrong impression of couple therapy. A lot of people seem to think that couple therapy is a last resort. They come when they are so angry, hurt and disconnected that they are seriously considering separation. They think, “let’s try couple therapy before…
Read MoreWhy men don’t feel body image angst in the same way as women
Men have body image angst but it is different to that of women’s and here is why Let’s take the example of the incident with the blue suit In 2015, Karl Stefanovic, a morning TV presenter on the Today Show in Australia, did an interesting experiment to see if there was any bias between the…
Read MoreHe pulls away when I want more
Whenever I ask for more affection, he pulls away from me. Does he actually care about me? Listen to the post below As far as the dance of intimacy goes, this relational pattern of push and pull is common. It goes something like this; You feel like you need more from your partner. More reassurance,…
Read Moreep 32: How numb are your lady parts? with Tamra Mercieca
{Relationship-smart women: Episode 32} Tamra Merieca How numb are your lady parts? Are your lady parts numb? How much feeling is down there? My next guest Tamra, is all about self-love, and by this, I mean truly…. on every level. Which means that she really encourages us to love, and care for our vaginas.…
Read Moreep 31: Sex is like food with Jacqueline Hellyer
{Relationship-smart women: Episode 31} Jacqueline Hellyer Sex is like food If your partner were to feed you eggplant for dinner every night, and you didn’t like eggplant, you would say something. Sadly, we don’t feel as expressive in the realms of sex and intimacy. We put up with offerings we don’t like, year in,…
Read MoreThe chasm between us
The chasm between us is a letter to your husband….. Read or listen via the link below. Babe, I want to talk to you, but I can’t find the words, so I am writing to you instead. I want you to know that I am thinking of you and us. I know that you may…
Read MoreClear out your relationship negativity
I get asked all the time, “How can I reconnect to my partner?” I love this question; in fact, I feel like this is the question on which all my work is based. Reconnecting was what I did with my partner several years ago when we were feeling disconnected and it is something, we continue…
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