Why doesn’t my husband make me happy?

“When we first met, we were so in love. Everything was beautiful and easy, and I felt so alive. But now It feels hard. It is not that I don’t love him, it is just that… my husband doesn’t make me happy anymore”

Can you relate?

This is a common story I hear in my practice.

Many women wonder “What the hell happened to our love? Is it ever going to feel that good again? Why doesn’t my husband make me happy?“

If this is you, I understand it can feel like a scary place. And yet, it can also be an important starting point for change.

The infactuation phase of romantic love does not last forever but, given the right energy and focus, something even more real, deep and lasting can bloom.

So where do you focus?

You could focus on your partner and what they could or should be doing to make you happy– sliding into blame, resentment or disappointment.

But, can I ask you – Is this what you are doing now? Is it working?
Focusing on what you lack is not the way forward. It only gives you more of the same.

Instead…

What if you became the change you wish to see in your relationship? 

What if you got clear on a few things that could create change in the way you interact, and worked on making it better?

I know it might feel like you don’t need more work, but you are stuck. What have you got to lose?

A great place to start is my mini do together or apart online communication course “The 5 big communication mistakes that couples make and how to avoid them” Grab it here.