B$tch club

Are you not always the nicest with your partner?

And by "not always the nicest" I mean....

Can you sometimes be a bitch to the one you love?

You can be cold, critical, unaffectionate, controlling, grandiose, perfectionistic?

And let me guess, this is confusing for you because usually, you are really bloody nice!

Oh the irony.

You are the kindest to the stranger in the street and yet, at home, in the space that it most matters, you find yourself being mean or somewhat hard to please.

Well, turns out, you are not alone.

This is a phenomena, it happens commonly (in fact, more often than not) and I have turned my attention towards it and am inviting you to join me and turn your attention to it too.

Let me introduce you to B$tch club. A safe and non-judgemental space where we can explore this phenomena, understand ourselves, find self-compassion and learn practical tools to change the dynamic.

  • B$tch club is going to take the form of monthly online meetings
  • Each month will have a different topic for us to explore
  • Cost will be $20 and you can come and go over the months
  • B$tch club, despite the name, will be a place of self-compassion and non-judgement
  • B$tch club will not be bitchy
  • Sign up to the newsletter to get notice of upcoming events

Why we need B$tch club

  • to know that we are not alone
  • to find a way to take ourselves less seriously
  • to share our hidden shameful bits in a safe space
  • to see the irony, contradictions and hypocracies of it all
  • to find inspiration to shift and change
  • to get unstuck from negative patterns

Every month B$tch club will meet with a fresh new theme and a different angle from which to observe ourselves and unpack things.

Our focus will be lightheartedness, curiosity, self-compassion and coming away with practical tips.

This club is for you if...

  • you don't like who you are when sometimes in your relationship
  • you want to connect with women in the same boat
  • you need to be open, light and honest about how things are
  • you need support and practical help
  • being a b$tch is not really who you are
  • you want to know why your intimate partner does your head in
  • you are curious about what is going on with you

We will aim to approach everything with:

Curiosity - so we can see ourselves and our patterns more clearly and freely (and more lightly)

Self-compassion - so we can offer love and understanding of our protective parts

Practical tips - so we can build the muscle to find our way out of stuckness and negativity

The first rules of B$tch club

  • What goes on in B$tch club stays in B$tch club
  • No judgement, we don't presume to know the full context
  • We are all equal, messy human to messy human
  • We don't give advice unless solicited
  • Compassion and self-compassion are our main tools
  • There is no B$tchy heirarchy, we can all go there

About the Creator

I’m Nicole Mathieson, a couple therapist and relationship-focused counsellor helping people come back to themselves and learn practical, experiential skills to create more loving, connected and harmonious intimate relationships — with themselves and their partners.

This is me and my hubby. We have been together since 1996 and have 2 teenager kids.It has been a journey, we have learnt a lot. Now we are like a good wine, getting better and better with age!

Hi, Nicole here,

I am in the process of writing my second book and it will be called "Why am I a b$tch to the one I love?". I realised that the best way for me to research and explore the book is to do it amongst women who resonate with being a bitch to their loved ones.

B$tch Club is going to fulfill 2 aims for me: 1. It will help me understand the phenomenum of women's bitchy behaviour more deeply and 2. fulfill the goal of getting women together to share about relationship stuff in a group setting.

Anything shared in the resutling book will only be done with consent. B$tch club will be a confidential and safe space.

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I acknowledge and pay my respect to the Jagera and Turrbal people, the traditional custodians of the land on which I live, learn and work.