relationships
Revive your sex life – get off the orgasm train
If you want to revive your sex life….forget about orgasm & get off the orgasm train. I had a revelation recently, it was that the western culture of sexuality really didn’t suit me. In fact, I am pretty sure it doesn’t suit a lot of us. What I am talking about is our sexual narrative…
Read MoreWhy am I such a bitch to my husband?
You thought you were the only one who was a bitch to their husband? Sadly, or perhaps reassuringly, that is not the case. You are in good company. Being a bitch to the ones we love is common amongst us women. Read on or listen to the post below. It is strange isn’t it, that…
Read MoreMy partner has sex tantrums. What do I do?
Understanding sex tantrums in relationships Does your partner have sex tantrums? They might exhibit signs of frustration, anger, or distance when they are not satisfied sexually. If so, you’re not alone. As a couple therapist, I often come across this phenomenon in couples seeking therapy. For men, this issue seems to often be significant enough…
Read MoreHoney, this is why we are not being intimate
A letter to your husband with the reason we are not being intimate aka: having (much) sex. Read or listen below. Hello honey, I just wanted to write and let you know a few things that I have been pondering about our sex life. Firstly, I just wanted to acknowledge you. I know that our…
Read MoreHe pulls away when I want more
Whenever I ask for more affection, he pulls away from me. Does he actually care about me? Listen to the post below As far as the dance of intimacy goes, this relational pattern of push and pull is common. It goes something like this; You feel like you need more from your partner. More reassurance,…
Read MoreStop the anger. 3 ways to find more love in your relationship now.
Several years ago, I was stuck in a dark place in my marriage. Listen to the post below This darkness seeped out as anger – I would storm and bang around the house in a passive aggressive fury, without saying anything to my husband. It seeped out in my avoidance of intimacy – my libido…
Read More10 ways you could be damaging your marriage
Are you worried that you are damaging your marriage? You find yourself being mean and bitchy to the one you love and it feels like it is damaging your marriage. You feel stuck in negative thoughts about your partner. And you know it is not working for you. In fact it doesn’t even feel like…
Read MoreWhy doesn’t my husband make me happy anymore?
Why doesn’t my husband make me happy? “When we first met, we were so in love. Everything was beautiful and easy, and I felt so alive. But now It feels hard. It is not that I don’t love him, it is just that… my husband doesn’t make me happy anymore” Can you relate? This is…
Read MoreUnderstand your attachment style – understand your relationship
Understand your attachment style Why do our most intimate relationships often make us feel the most insecure? Why does he pull away at the times when you are in most desperate need of comfort and reassurance? Why do we respond so emotionally to seemingly little things our partners do? Or, inversely, why do the things…
Read MoreWhy do we stop feeling love for our partners after kids?
Why do we stop feeling love for our partners after we have kids? After the elation of having our gorgeous wee babies and working out how on earth to look after them, we can start to feel the build-up of resentment, crankiness and a lack of desire. But why? Is it because (for many of…
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