Intimacy & stillness freak me out

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To be comfortable in intimacy is to appreciate myself.

When I was younger intimacy scared the Be-geezers out of me. I was the classic Leo; an extrovert with a self-interested ego. It was all about having fun & fitting in with the crowd. But when the lights came on and the crowds parted and I was left alone or with just one other – FREAK out!!……      I was not comfortable at all.

In this really short video (okay 6 mins) I chat about;

  • What is really behind our fear of intimacy
  • Why fear of intimacy is the same thing as fear of stillness
  • Why I finally had to Stop and tune in
  • My 3 part plan to get comfortable with intimacy

I know that what I really want is to be able to step closer. 

Go deeper.

Be held and loved for who I truly am,

Not for the stuff I produce, 

Not for the care I take of others

Not for how well I scrub up;

But for ME.

But often, instead of showing up and asking to be loved for our fullness, what we do is continue to pimp ourselves to our fears of not being enough. We continue to run away from stillness, display the perfect veneer and control the world so we don’t get exposed.

And the more we stick to this pattern, the harder it gets to be still, to be alone, and to go deeper.

I am the one that has to go there. Nobody else. When I hold the space to be enough, to be loveable, to be AS I am, I do not have to fear intimacy.

Intimacy is being open. With myself, my spirit, my soul, my heart, my lover, my life.

Intimacy is effortless comfort with myself so that I flow into all experiences of life in my fullness.

Appreciate yourself. Today. This is your job in this life.

Take care

Nicole

2 Comments

  1. Alana on November 20, 2014 at 5:29 pm

    Nicole! Two things… firstly, this came at just the right time! I’m about to turn off my laptop and phone for an entire three days. It’s going to be just me getting to know me. There will be reading and journalling and meditating. As a do-a-holic. This terrifies me. Your video was exactly what I needed to hear.
    Secondly, I could feel this video radiating from your heart, it gave me shivers. I think you’ve found your calling x

    • Nicole on November 20, 2014 at 6:15 pm

      Hi Alana,

      Thank you so much for your kind words, they mean the world to me. I wish you good luck in your techno slow down. I am craving for a bit of that myself. to ease into it, remind yourself that All is well – see yourself from up in space and gain a bit of perspective. Down time will be so powerful.
      And thank you I do feel like there is a lot of passion on this topic. Calling + Soap box. Here we come.
      xxN

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