My partner has sex tantrums. What do I do?

Understanding sex tantrums in relationships Does your partner have sex tantrums? They might exhibit signs of frustration, anger, or distance when they are not satisfied sexually? If so, you’re not alone. As a couple therapist, I often come across this phenomenon in couples seeking therapy. For men, this issue seems to often be significant enough…

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5 things that don’t need to end your relationship

“Is it a deal breaker?”   5 relationship deal-breakers….. or perhaps not! A fresh perspective on 5 things we traditionally think lead to relationship breakdown At some time in our lives, just about all of us have asked ourselves the question immortalised by The Clash, “Should I stay, or should I go?” In this post…

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How can I improve my relationship without changing my partner?

Is it possible to improve your relationship without changing your partner? Absolutely. Let’s face it, unless you are changing relationships as often as you change underwear, there are going to be moments when everything in your relationships feels stuck. Stuck because of him. (For ease, I am speaking as though to a heterosexual woman, but…

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How to be more intimate

Intimacy

How do you become more intimate?   Does it require you to ; -be in a relationship -have erotic sex every night -be upbeat and happy all the time -be wild, brazen and out there -intensely look into other people’s eyes No. All those things are possible, but it is not the place to start.…

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Why am I so mean to the one I love?

Why am I such a bitch to the one I love?

You thought you were the only one who was mean to their beloved. I’m afraid not. you are in good company. The ones we love the most, cop it the most. I mean, it makes a lot of sense on so may levels. But sometimes we get stuck there in bitch mode, festering away without…

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All I need is just a little patience

My old dog shows me on a daily basis why we need patience. When I am walking him to the front door for his morning walk, he gets ahead of me and puts his nose right up to where the door is about to open. He is so keen to go outside, that I can’t…

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Is he or isn’t he my soul mate?

Don’t let a belief in Soulmates lead you to negativity A client recently asked me if I believed in soul mates. “Yes!  I do.” I replied. But not in the same way I used to. When I first got together with my husband, I believed whole heartedly that I had found my soul mate. My…

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True self-nurture and how we get it wrong

What is the secret to true self-nurture? Recently I noticed myself feeling anxious. Anxiety for me is a wake-up call. It says to me that I am not connected to or standing in solidarity with my spirit. But why? I found myself asking. I show up every day, I put my hands on my heart,…

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Why do I feel so angry at my husband?

I’m angry because we feel disconnected On Saturday while attending a conference in Sydney, I felt inspired to pen these words on how angry it makes us when we feel disconnected and then post them to my FB group, the Unbreakable Love Community: “You can’t attack your partner into connection. It came to me that…

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