The first step to building more trust with your partner

I often get asked by my clients how they can learn to trust their partners more?   Trust can be one of the most elusive aspects of  intimate relationships. But focussing on your partner’s deeds and thoughts to check how trustworthy they are, can actually do more harm to the trust in your relationship than…

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Honey, this is why we are not being intimate

A letter to your husband with the reason we are not being intimate aka: having (much) sex. Read or listen below. Hello honey, I just wanted to write and let you know a few things that I have been pondering about our sex life. Firstly, I just wanted to acknowledge you. I know that our…

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He pulls away when I want more

Whenever I ask for more affection, he pulls away from me. Does he actually care about me? Listen to the post below As far as the dance of intimacy goes, this relational pattern of push and pull is common. It goes something like this; You feel like you need more from your partner. More reassurance,…

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ep 32: How numb are your lady parts? with Tamra Mercieca

{Relationship-smart women: Episode 32}   Tamra Merieca How numb are your lady parts? Are your lady parts numb? How much feeling is down there? My next guest Tamra, is all about self-love, and by this, I mean truly…. on every level. Which means that she really encourages us to love, and care for our vaginas.…

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ep 31: Sex is like food with Jacqueline Hellyer

{Relationship-smart women: Episode 31}   Jacqueline Hellyer Sex is like food If your partner were to feed you eggplant for dinner every night, and you didn’t like eggplant, you would say something. Sadly, we don’t feel as expressive in the realms of sex and intimacy. We put up with offerings we don’t like, year in,…

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Revive your sex life – get off the orgasm train

If you want to revive your sex life….forget about orgasm & get off the orgasm train. I had a revelation recently, it was that the western culture of sexuality really didn’t suit me. In fact, I am pretty sure it doesn’t suit a lot of us. What I am talking about is our sexual narrative…

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The chasm between us

The chasm between us is a letter to your husband….. Read or listen via the link below. Babe, I want to talk to you, but I can’t find the words, so I am writing to you instead. I want you to know that I am thinking of you and us. I know that you may…

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Clear out your relationship negativity

I get asked all the time, “How can I reconnect to my partner?” I love this question; in fact, I feel like this is the question on which all my work is based. Reconnecting was what I did with my partner several years ago when we were feeling disconnected and it is something, we continue…

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He won’t go to counselling, what should I do?

Read the post, or listen via the link below. He won’t go to counselling, what should I do? This is a common tale in the realms of hetero-sexual relationships. The wife wants to go to couple counselling, but the husband does not. Can it be the other way around? Absolutely it can, but the man…

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