Honey, this is why we are not being intimate

A letter to your husband with the reason we are not being intimate aka: having (much) sex. Read or listen below. Hello honey, I just wanted to write and let you know a few things that I have been pondering about our sex life. Firstly, I just wanted to acknowledge you. I know that our…

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How can I improve my relationship without changing my partner?

Is it possible to improve your relationship without changing your partner? Absolutely. Let’s face it, unless you are changing relationships as often as you change underwear, there are going to be moments when everything in your relationships feels stuck. Stuck because of him. (For ease, I am speaking as though to a heterosexual woman, but…

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Our culture lets us down

Our culture encourages marriage, but where do we turn if we have problems? In my marriage, there have been moments when I have felt so alone. ……..So sure that nobody else shared my problems. I didn’t know who to turn to. I didn’t know that turning to someone would really be an option. And then…

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Losing to zero – am I still lovable?

  Lessons on losing from my kids. We are playing a board game. My husband, 2 kids, Japanese homestay student and I. It is the students turn. My husband and I encourage her to take the most obvious move. The strategic move. The move that sends our 8 year old daughter back to the beginning.…

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